The pain of not letting go.

Life doesn't promise happiness at all times without undergoing to feel pain. In pain comes great happiness.

When being hurt because of a heartache due to failed relationship, at first, it is like sticking into the concept of always thinking about the situation and recalling things that boils to circle of what has happened or to whom is being wronged.

There are great things in life that needs to be cherished and sticking into the past can't make a person move to a new, brighter future.

When you are in tragic hurt, it is best to initial a coping mechanism that drives you not to stick to your past. It is better for you to:

FEEL THE PAIN. Just let the pain take you to the way of forming you. Don't let the pain stop you from feeling it because the more you experience to feel the pain, the more you will get tired of it and then it will not cross to your mind then. Thus, you need to savorly feel it without any prententious acts. Accept with full gladness that pain delivers to hurt you even more.

DEFINE WHAT YOU FEEL. You need to be certain why you need to feel the pain. Too much exaggeration of feeling it will no longer feeling the pain in a more defined manner. There are pain that needs not to really think about it more. And there are those that really makes you think it even harder. What are your pains for? That is the best way to go away with the kind of feeling so that you can be able to unleash the strings in the attachment of more pain.

ACCEPT THE PAINFUL EXPERIENCE. There is no greater peace within when you try to recapitulate with open arms the pain that you are experiencing. Pain is the revealed truth and of course, knowing the truth is such a very painful experience. But escaping to define it is just a waste of your time. Think that it will just pass. But you need to accept first that you feel the pain because for the most reason that you will be transformed into whole again.

 MOVE ON. When you feel the true hurt out of reason why you are hurting then it is your time to give a break of yourself and move on, forgetting everything about the person. Through total forgetting the one that hurts you is the only solid evidence that you will be at peace. Don't ever imagine that everything will be going to be well again. That is you see any case of that single opportunity, but if not, then go away and leave that memories behind of you and him or her. It only needs a step to go forward in the life of moving on. It is the hardest but it is the best that you can do.

Hurt is not easy. It needs processes. When doing the right process, then happiness be yours.