Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Lee Min Ho: An Admiration

This day calls me to do video marathon on the famous video site in the Internet. I came across a Korean television series that interests me.

It was the Gu Jun Pyo in Boys Over Flowers and Lee Yun Seong in City Hunter that captured my admiration of Lee Min Ho. I thought Korean television series can’t moved me because I am more on films and movies. I was wrong. I had found my ultimate admiration of this man. He is just so perfect for his role. The wit and acting styles he has shown is just so enduring and endearing. I found the actor in him that is ultimately different from the other actors. I couldn’t even decipher that there was a time that I dreamt of him. That surely explains how I undyingly admired this person.

The character he portrayed in Boys Over Flowers and City Hunter is quite of the same type, finding him insensitive, but deep inside he is soft-hearted and kind. He just doesn’t seem to show that he has love of the leading ladies portraying the role in both series, but his love is hidden, until it burst to be true. The love he has portrayed in the two series is unpredictable. But in the end, true love resides.

Lee Min Ho’s character roles are fit for his personality. Maybe in real life he is unpredictable but true. Because of his charisma, aura and sex appeal, the impact of his roles in the person he really is donates a huge magnet that attracts people of various viewers, both young and old. There is really an unexplained chemistry that forms the circles of his acting. He just knows when to show posts and use his wit.

The directors of these two Korean television series are very artistic, imaginative and emphatic because every episode of the series is something that everyone should not miss. It calls viewers to know what will happen next. There is an intelligent transfer of moods, actions and scenarios that makes the viewers wait and see. The story is indeed interesting. It is something that people have to think what comes next. No one can really tell exactly what will happen next. It is like we have to wait and discover. The twists are circling us to deeply indulge ourselves in the characters’ shoes.

I admit that I never have taste of watching TV series but because of the “feel” and admiration that I have with the actor’s extraordinary role lead by Lee Min Ho, I have realized that I should paused seeing movies and films. I should also see the wonderful stories behind the production of TV series. It was then that I have discovered the quality of the art that directors put in making television series that it is also the same with the art I have shown in the film and movies.

Imagine as my adult age, I have this admiration of Lee Min Ho. I couldn’t imagine that such a Korean actor would drive me to see the beautiful side of acting in small but gigantic TV production.

The tandem of Lee Min Ho and Park Min-Young in the City Hunter and he and Ku Hye Sun of Boys Over Flowers are not boring. They are perfect for their roles. I hope that Koreans will do more television series that are perfectly interesting because frankly, I can’t wait to see Lee Min Ho’s acting projects boom. His acting skills are international. It seems that people are looking forward on her next projects.

Now, I have realized why my fellow citizens are always on the look for Lee Min Ho. And not to mention, I am one of them. Cheers!

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

How does blogging affect people?

In the world where people want to share information, the best that they can air their insights is in the form of Blogging.

Blogging is a kind of computer-activity that lets individuals share their knowledge, information, insights of things which they find beneficial, appealing and needed to tell to the world. In other words, blogging is a form of expression of people’s views about many things. They can write what they know signing up a blog.

To blog means to buzz.  It means to tell what you want to say. It reveals issues, events, situations, actions, discoveries and purely information. It is a way of expressing what you need, want to say.

In the world of blogging, it affects many people in many ways. Just like my love of blogging, it makes me an active writer that I need to feed the people facts everyday. We all have the same reason, probably why you love to blog. But how does blogging affect people?

Blogging awares individuals. The writer unstoppably writes articles everyday, maintaining the life of the blog. That alone is a big indication that he write for people to be informed, to be intrigued, to moved, to change the way they think, to buzz, to share what they want to react. It simply means that writer’s written output is the sole basis of how people view things and how they are going to evolve living things. In this way, they are not just sitting in a sofa, watching news on TV, they are informed with purpose.

The information presented in blogs are writers’ views. The ignorant will not be left ignorant for they will be feed with information that through time, it can’t be stolen and is never lost. Blogging extends its height even through generations.

Blogging ignites people to react. Because of the diverse information that blogs scatter everyday, people are in action to react of what they have written. The simple analysis leads people to think and to share about how they feel. For some, reactions from the masses are the measure of the effectiveness in the articles written by the blogger. The solicited information lets the writer know that people are not in silence, that they want to participate in a certain cause. Their reactions can be seen through comments, suggestions area which is located at the bottom of the written article.

Blogging makes people active. It is the connection that drives readers and writers to boil down in one point, understanding, that what makes them active. To the part of the writer (blogger), he wants to always write fresh and juicy articles, informative, inspirational, factual and invigorating news. For the reader, they wait for every article the blogger puts in his column and they give reactions to what they feel they want to say. This indeed makes them active. There is communication. Blogging is not about being stagnant in the writing business. It defines the enthusiast of the crowds to ignite action through their reactions. It invites people to be part of the blogging world. It tells them not to be in silence, but to be louder in raising their queries, opinions, suggestions, insights and comments. There is what we call infinite connection which makes the blogging process alive.

Blogging transforms lives.  There are personal blogs that shares their personal life experiences about things and situations which people have in common. This gives the opportunity for some to reflect and sit down for awhile. The truth, the emotion, the reality is all in blogging.

There are many types of persons who participated in the blogging world. Because of their various experiences in life, they share what they have learned through the world wide web, telling the people what they exactly want to reveal. The people are active listeners can really get something out from what they personally share. The way the bloggers imply to his audience generates learning. That is why, there are transforming blogs that touch the heart and feel the emotions of the people. The articles of the writers are based on his daily experiences and observations of the world and we, people as part of this world has the same feel that the writer posts in his blog.

Blogging is transforming. It is not greed. It is imparting the realities in life.

Blogging gives the people the opportunity to earn.  Some blogs are not just intended just to blog. There are some that through blogging, they can earn income. It is the talents in writing and the truth of what the writer reveals that makes blogging a form of a good business. Because bloggers earn income, they can fulfill their dreams to buy and sustain their life as they unstoppably write. A writer needs nourishment (food) in order to further full the stomach and the brain with ideas. That is why, blogging is also form of a business. You are not just informing the people, maintaining the life of you blog, you are also nourishing your spirit and soul to write more useful facts and information to feed and quench the hungry people.

It can’t be denied that not all individuals have the power or the expertise to write. We are individually different. But for bloggers who are always in-the-go to unselfishly donate their time and effort in making articles is a form of a big sacrifice.

We owe much what we have learned now to them for without those bloggers or writers as what we call them, we are just a blank sheet without anything on.

Blogging is life. 


Cecille Ann Gregory, writer of this blog
Blogger

How to gain self-confidence in the way you dress (Girls)

The dress you wear implies the real you. It is a revelation that you would like to tell to others that you are this type of person. The way you dress simply reveals the level of your confidence. But to what extent of confidence do you belong in the way you dress?

My mother told me when I was a kid that wherever I will go, I should wear the best me, the best clothes all the time. That indeed, I grown up living to live the way my mother taught me. And I love it. I gained much confidence because of the way I wear dresses and carry myself even to numerous crowds.

If you want to make change in your life, it is in you. There is no other person who can make that change instead you. And dresses are part of that start.

I know you always want to tell yourself that I will look good. But how will you start looking good if you will not open up your cabinet and start to dress like a princess, a super star?

Look at the actresses, the models and the beauty queen, they are truly glamorous and all the glamour they wear is because of the way they dress and how they carry themselves in the crowds.

That is why, we girls should boost our confidence and to start, we should:

Wear skirt, casual dresses (formal or informal). You want to gain much confidence? Then change the way you think. If your problem is the way you dress, then go over the clothes you have in your closet and have a mix of fitting that all colors and styles should be exotic to the eyes of the people. Remember, the way you dress has a big matter of how you combine and wear the right color and style of clothes. Girls are more gorgeous when they wear skirt dresses. The implication of it is that they are really girls. They are captivating, pretty and soft-hearted. Boys love girls who wear girly clothes. It is too boyish, for me, if girls always wear pants and t-shirts. Wearing those types of clothes (pants and t-shirt for girls) will not reveal or exalt their beauty.

Pants and t-shirts are good combination of clothes for girls who do extraneous activities. Of course, who would have wear gown if one is doing the laundry. It is really a big impact for women to bear in them the power of womanhood through wearing skirt, gown, and casual dresses formally or in informal occasion according to the kind of affair that serves wearing the kind of dresses fit the occasion. 

Add accessories to give more highlights. Plain dressing is not just the only part and all will be well. Of course, the eyes limits to the border of reflecting into what is the highlight that gives spark to the entire posture of girls. Dresses should be paired with accessories – necklaces, jewelries, bracelets, rings or anklets that is not distracting and exaggerating to the aura of the person’s looks. Too much accessories in various parts of the body are disturbing to look at. Simplicity goes along with the type of dress that best paired with its accessories. Do not mix accessories that are too far of the color of the dress. It is very elegant to see girls wear accessories that its color is in par with the color of the dress.

Use the appropriate sandals. The sandals should have common color also with the dress or if you want to be mutually simple, black is a universal color that suit to be paired with various colors of dresses. Be sure that sandals will best fit for you. Don’t pretend to stand okay which in the later, you are not comfortable with your shoes because all of those that you wear give big reflection of fabulous walk in the way you handle yourself. The sandal gives the glow of the way you carry yourself in walking.

Carry suitable pouch or bag. Girls are not satisfied with just mere dress and shoes alone. Their personal belongings like the make-up, lipstick, perfume or cash needs to be with them all the time. That is why, they need the right pouch to store them all. The pouch or bag should not cover nor overlap the whole style and the elegance of the dress. Pouches and bags should carry the same color, as much as possible with the dress. It is so unlikely to see girls who carry too much color. The SOP or what we call us the standard operating procedure in wearing the right get-up is that there should only be three colors that dominantly bring the blow of one’s fashionistic styles. More colors than that, one should find how to appear them that it will not be distracting to the eyes of the viewers.

The color and styles of dresses should top the choice of your dressing selections. To be fashionable is to appear simple but elegant, to know how to recycle and utilize what is available around us. It is not expensive to dress like a princess. All you need is to excel the art in you. Put little, dress elegantly and walk lightly are just the coolest tips that you should always remember all the time. Confidence is not so hard to acquire. Everyone has it. It always begins in the way you wrap yourself in front of the eyes that looks up to you. Make every moment last!


Cecille Ann Gregory, writer of this blog
Blogger

Monday, February 27, 2012

Why is there Cyberbullying?


Have you experienced being bullied in the Internet? Have you received hostile messages in your emails or in your cell phones from an unknown sender? Have you received harassed comments and false statements posted in your networking page? If you do, you are one of the many individuals who are victims of Cyberbullying.

Cyberbullying happens when a person harms other people and display hostile messages in the Internet, cell phones and other messaging technologies. And with no exemption, I have been one of those who had experienced being bullied online.

Cyberbullying is rampant to all ages especially to the young people. The wide exchange of false statements, the harsh and hostile texts, treats, rumors and humiliation embarrasses everyone who is victim of these cruel acts from anonymous persons, disguising to be the other persons in their posts. When these unwanted posts become public, the worst, it can cause total damage to the victim. But who has to be blamed? How can we trace the culprit? Why is there Cyberbullying?

Of course, when such bad activities as like cyberbullying that is spreading in the world wide web, it is hard to identify the culprit unless the identification reveals the true identity of the person. What if he uses other names to name himself? That is a big problem.

The only main reason I find that cyberbullying is spreading is because of the lack of attention that the culprit (the one that does the bullying) experience from his surroundings. Due to the fact that he finds it happy to hurt other people’s feelings, he finds it amusing and the other, worrying and almost losing self-esteem. The way we handle the persons around us brings impact to their lives. Cyberbullying goes back to the nature children have at home, in school and in their peers. Children who don’t bully are those children who find a home in their home. Their parents are not lacking in giving them attention in caring their kids. They have all the total support in giving love to their children. They show love and care for them. That is why, their children are respectful, behaved and with good values.

In school where there are many various personalities displayed, the kind of growth the children learn at home will not dominantly take place in temptation when they go to school because they know that their parents will get mad and are never happy if they do something bad in school that could hurt others. Thus, on the other side, children whose parents lack parental love and guidance, tend their children to be rebellious and finding themselves hurting others are the only source of revenge or release that they can do in order to manifest their behavior of being happy when they can hurt other’s feelings and when they see others are crying.

Peers is a shaky place that also donates infliction in the part of a person. If your friends are planning bad intentions of causing pain to others and find it pleasing acts, then part away from them. I am sure they are not the kind of friends you want to have. For in the case if you are always going with them and doing what bad actions they do, then you will be one of them who are not a good citizen of your country.

Problem children are the kind of children who loves to cause pain and in bullying, is the kind of easy release that they can outburst their anger. That is why, they want to feel to others how it is to be hurt as they are overly indulged with the kind of hurtful feelings because of lack of attention from their parents and from the people around them.

Parents are the sole molder of values. They are the guides to their children, to do what is right and uphold the values of goodness. The home is where the start of the values formation. It should always be like that.

If parents are too busy with work, they should prioritize in finding time to check their children because if there is no active communication between the parents and their children, that comes the cause of the existence of bullying. Parents too should not bully their children. It should be that the home is the foundation and formation of values.

I believe that the existence of bullying is plainly done in the environment around us and now with the existence of technology, the children find it easy to access and inflict pain to others in the Internet or other communication devices because of the stored harsh words that they feel to post, they intentionally want to post in the sites. Worst, it is publicized.

That is why, communication of parents to their children is really needed. Parents should always remind their children to be good to people at all times.


Cecille Ann Gregory, writer of this blog
Blogger

Go out from your comfort zone

To venture into new opportunities, to try things which you have never done before, to show to the world who you really are and what you can do more, these things need no help of your comfort zone.

Comfort zone, for me, is the constant state or feeling of a person’s grip to what he usually relies. It is the stable him which in the lost of his dependent on things and to persons, tendencies are, he finds the world imbalanced.  He tends to be out of control. He doesn’t know what is the best thing to do. He is just too nervous.

I have encountered numerous individuals who are always in the state of saying that they want to do something for the sake of others, they want to make a difference in the lives for humankind, they want to tell the world that I they got more than enough and that they will show you what more can they can do. Worst is, those statements are better said than done.

In order to release the energy of too much dependent of the self (because no one can ever be discovered unless one has to do something about it), it is now time to leave out from one’s comfort zone. The question now is, how?

Just for example, you want to show to your friends, to your parents or to the people in the world that you have hidden talent in singing. You are just watching TV and witness the performances of your favorite singers, or merely you are singing alone in your room that not even your little brothers and sisters will see you, singing. Your teacher in Music tells the class to show the God-given talent in you, and then you make some alibis that you don’t have something to show. When can you totally say that you are at your best? When can you show to others that you have shown what you really got?

Then, better leave your comfort zone. Comfort, because you only knew that it is in there that you definitely rely your trust and that you are stuck to grip them tight without discovering the inner you. Zone, the point in which you are just there that serves your “limits”. You know that you have more to give but you impede yourself from telling the people that you indeed have a lot, more to give.

Resting in one’s comfort zone will not leave successful you. You will always reside in that residence. You will never improve. You will not be able to tell the world that you have more to show, to testify them, to discover in you. It is like you want to really give this year a blast, but you don’t. You hesitate to grow.

I have been through lots of reliance in resting my life where my comfort zone boosts me. But to tell you honestly, I was able to tell and discover that once for awhile in our life, if you are afraid to try, you should try and do what you think you are afraid of because it is in that way that brighter opportunities come. It is a big credit to oneself of showing the world what you want to tell them.

Your comfort zone leads you to a stagnant direction.  You to do what you want to do, but you just can’t. There is an inner force that being worried of what the people might say dominates in your entire self. Who cares? It is you. It is not them. It is your life. After all, you will be benefited from it.

I am sure you don’t want to be static. You don’t want to be stagnant. You want to productively grow. But how can you will be able to shine and grow if worrying dominates the whole of you? Now, you need to drop down all those insecurities, worries and fears. You have the right to shine and tell the world that this is me. Wear the elegant dress, have a make-over, give thumbs up of your serious change and tell them that you are on your way, ready to grow and shine. Remember life is so short, if you want to make the best out of life than, go out from your comfort zone.

Your comfort zone is a discomfort zone.  There you go, you are again at your mask, at your static shell. Are you not tired of pretending that you can do that others can do? Are you not giving discomforts of yourself when you can give more than them? Are you totally complete and happy now with your static self? Common’ don’t be fooled.

I know that you want to grow. Then, don’t be prison with your usual comfort zone. Unleash the potential in you. If you are always staying static, you will not grow. You will just be contented in little things where in fact, you can achieve more. Remember, all of us are endowed with equal rights. All of us have mutual power to shine. Others discover it and show it in their late 60s. That is indeed too late. Now, here you go, you are young. The more you unlock yourselves from the prison cell of your comfort zone, the higher your accomplishment will be.

You have heard all those wonderful, transforming news on TV. You want to be like them. Indeed, it is a good task to volunteer. When are you going to start involving yourself in the community? Only when you will become the billionaire who own huge companies of oil? Oh my! What a dream. But the day is today. It is now.

Remember, the delusion of thinking he can give more is the result of action right away. You should not only dream and dream. You need to make actual action out from dreaming. Go out from your discomfort zone.

Your comfort zone makes no good you. Be certain of what you want in life. Don’t associate, going out from comfort zone is doing bad. That is not the type of interpretation I do convey here.

Do you want to be a prominent doctor? Do you want to be the President of this country? Do you want to own a house and build family? Do you want to be a summa cum laude? Then be certain of what you want in life. You can achieve them. That is why, leave your comfort zone. Do more than that by excelling more on studying and finding better ways in order to achieve what you want in life. Don’t be so dreamy. Don’t be so imaginative. That will not bring you good. Instead, you need to work hard. Don’t just be contented with what you have right now. Not contented in the sense that you should not stop there. There are more in this world that you can do. You can be what you want to be.

Pressures, hard tests, financial problems, etc. those are part of unleashing your comfort zone. If you want a big transformation of your life that you will be successful doctor someday, you need to reach the best things that come along with it, hardwork. Be optimistic all the time.

Your comfort zone makes no use of your existence.  How do you grow? Are you still dependent to your parents, to your brothers or sisters, now that you are grown-up? One way of helping oneself is to find solutions in every problem. The moment you were born is with an ultimate purpose. But don’t let that purpose be just a mere plan. You need to achieve more. That is what makes life meaningful. Change the way you think and upon achieving what you want, that defines your existence.

Your comfort zone underestimates you. Resting on your comfort zone is like relying always to your parents, grandma or grandpa. It is like too much dependent of the persons who are already tired of sustaining you (that is for grown-ups). You are composed of potentials, talents, capabilities, energies. Those are your vigor, the weapon as you pursue your life. Don’t you think you will just let those rotten and gone in nowhere without even using their individual powers? Never underestimate your potential. You are a gift. The way you handle yourself will lead you to what you become in life. That is why, go away from your comfort zone.

The way we think emerges the way we do things and the way we handle situations. In life, we need to be a wise listener. Wise in the sense that we need to weigh things out as we decide, if it brings good or if I do it, does it not be pleasing to the eyes of God?

Color your life. Get out from your shell. Make certain of what you really want in your life and what you want your life to be. Life is a matter of choice, but be fix to choose what is pleasing and proper to the eyes of God and to the people. Go out from your comfort zone and don’t exaggerate thinking bad that lowers your self-esteem. You are beautiful. We are all beautiful and we can be what we want to be. Now is your time.
Cecille Ann Gregory, author of this blog
Blogger

Sunday, February 26, 2012

How to cope with arguments among couples

In life, the taste of sweet living is tested in time, and in companionship. The relationship of husband and wife extends not in good times but in tough times too. After the tingling feeling of sweet promises in the altar of love bounds the test of how both persons fight the call of challenges.  Marriage is indeed a sacred bind of two persons who are in-love to go beyond that love to build a family of their own. But paired with the love is the existence of countless tests through time. Most of those heated uncertainties are what we call arguments. But how does both couple cope with arguments?

Take it from my personal experience that it is not to worry when couples argue. It boils down to how couple deals with the problem that will not leave heartaches for the both of them.

Learn to lower down your pride. Arguments are very irritating. Of course, you don’t want that always like everyday, the house is filled with anger and madness. If the cause of heated arguments started in one of you, then one should learn how to lower down his pride. It is a kind of a common sense that when the one is like to burst in anger, then the one should tone down. Both should not be in the upper pride. There is nothing good that will result if the two persons are in higher state of madness.

Learn to let the person explain.  It is not proper to easily judge and conclude a misconception. One should be open to listen and to take the side of the explanation. Through making things clear only one finds better understanding and even love. It is not fair to burst in madness because of just a view of the cause without knowing the reason why.  You should not be drawn to the intense of your reaction everytime things going out wrong. You should take the serious side of knowing because it is only when will we know that we will understand. Be sure to listen and give time for the person to explain.

Learn to be open. The main reason that relationships break is that the lack of openness. Being open is telling the truth. It is not self-centered. It shows the right answer from the wrong. To be open is to build trust that the person will accept and understand what one tries to reveal. No matter if it is just too cliché, too childish or too ambiguous, but what is important in being open is to tell exactly the whole truth but nothing but really the truth.

Learn to forgive and accept. Arguments are easily healed if and only if couples learn how to forgive and accept. There is still bitterness left in every heart if the madness is still there and not being healed. Acceptance for some, probably is hard to do. Maybe for some it is easy to forgive and forget. But people when carrying more grudges out from one’s saying “sorry”, they may find it unappealing. That is why, the hurt is still presence in their spirit.

To fully life carefree is to naturally feel the rhythm of forgiveness comes in one’s heart, for if one forgives then it is easy for him to forget and accept everything that even through times, he will not look back on the mistakes made.

Learn to build trust again. Persons has the instinct of feeling lose when one really does mistakes. It is the trust that should be kept unhurt. But in life, because of tests and challenges, there are things that lead couples to try their relationship in a way that it almost loses their trust. But if you are a person who wholeheartedly understands and listens, it is not difficult for you to trust your partner for the second time, even for many times. It is very important to have trust. It plants the impossible to become possible.

When couples have the common sense to give and take, it is not impossible that heated arguments will be left hanging unsolved throughout their lives. Being happy together as couple will bring out the best in the family that their children will see their parents always wearing a big  smile with a light heart which the they, themselves (children) will look up to in a family.

Before any mess will happen in a family, saving the glow of your family’s happiness lies in the hands of the husband and wife. Don’t let heated arguments ruin the relationship you have with your family and to your partner. 

I never have regrets in life because when my husband and I face tests that lead us to argue on things, we never escape any single misunderstanding left unattended. We easily talk and forgive. And this makes us all happy.


Cecille Ann Gregory, the author of this blog
Blogger

Friday, February 24, 2012

What I have learned in playing online games

I admit that in my age now (26 years old), I still play online games. In fact, after doing my work in the office, I hurriedly drive home to play online games. What do video games do to me?

The office displays more works and meeting schedules and deadlines, in as much as I do overtime job. My work leads me to be imprisoned with what is just plainly seen over and over again. All are in cycle. That is the atmosphere of my work in the office. It is all routinely done. But when I am at home, I am feeling the freedom to do what I do want. Part of what do is to play online games or video games.

I find release from the pressures of this world through pressing the keys and there you go, the race/contest happens. The speed, wit and common sense are being tested. The time and the power life are the boundaries that cease the chance to go further. That is why, there is quickness in thinking, instant maneuvering and measuring of my patience.

For how many years now that I have been playing online games, I have found out in myself that I can think fast especially in finding the exact, reasonable ways to get things better accomplished. I have invested the thinking of being organized and systematic. I have learned to be quick, not in messy state but in a more refined and appropriate manner. The power of my thinking reaches to the point that I think more and much deeper if what I decide will bring me good or not, or will it cost more chaos or will it help the process. I gather ideas and decide on the best option among those choices.

I am relaxed and happy when I can play online games.  It provides me an avenue to really do what I want and in attaining that, I am happy and satisfied because I am in the winning side as I play video games. I meet various characters and personalities of my opponents or my enemies, that thinking in defending to gain justice and truth are my fight always. I don’t want to see my place ruined by the culprits. I want to fight for what is right and just. I want to defend the poor and the unfortunate. In this way, I do my every best, maneuvering to give the right fight for my winning.

I become brave. The displayed portrayals of my enemies are really harsh and immoral. But I stand strong to fight them. They are furious. But I am much stronger than them. My vigor is like the steel, ready to mash their evil ways. I strike more and from every fall, I do my best to stand and face the battle.
I become a solution-seeker. Quitting is not my attitude. I learned how to find ways in order to solve even the “impossible”. The “ifs”, “I think..” and the “Oh my…” are just so easy to solve.  There are solutions to every problem. It may not that quick to be found, but I believe that there is. Of course, I have experienced many “trys”. In fact, I fail numerous ways, but I try to do again and again. I have realized that there is really a way./

I learn how to build sportsmanship. Playing games online is not really a serious case that when one losses, all one’s world shattered. That sounds ridiculous. The very reason why you play is that you want to be relaxed and attain to go on with the fight. But when your purpose is to always win, win and win, then, there is nothing good that will go for you. Before you further experience the sweetness of life, you have to work it out more and you need to pass through more downs than ups, before you really be in the top. Just be sporty oftentimes. If you win, good! If you don’t, better luck the next time around, no matter how many next times that would probably be. That’s life!

I learn to be calm. Because I am not thinking more of winning, just plain gaming, I learn not to load with anger. I learn to be calm. It is like I am just enjoying the battle, nothing so serious.

Whatever the reasons of you, playing games online, always remember that you are just giving credit for yourself to enjoy and have fun, to be relaxed and to not feel the weight of the world in your shoulders. Just always smile. After all, in life, we need to be positive always in spite of the negatives and perplexities this world ever had. 

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Stage Fright: How to fight it

I am one of those individuals who have fright in front of many people. I am afraid being in the center-stage when all the eyes and ears are obviously looking, staring and listening at me. I am afraid of their looks, their horrible gestures and the person in them because I am clueless if they are harmful or not. But my instinct tells me to fight my stage fright. Luckily, as my boss lets me share my personal experience being a fighter of work, I shared to everyone how I went through and the challenges that I have encountered. Those seniors displaying sharp looks, but I am pretty sure that those sharp stare are the evidences that they are listening attentively.

Then, I carried out my speech. My instinct at the spare of the moment on-stage, I was able to fight my fear.

I forget them as our guests. I am thinking there is the genius person in the front. There is the cum laude in the rear, the president at the side. I think they tease me. I am very much afraid of their frightful look as if they are ready to attack me and bite me bit by bits. Nevertheless, I hold my grip. I was able to pursue my plan of furthering my speech. It is just I am thinking of them as ordinary persons.

I abandon thoughts of myself. I am very feeling super conscious. It seems like I build the instant inferiority complex because of my size, my nose, my dress, my shoes. But I carry a confidence tune. I just go on with my speech and take them for granted. I am not thinking of letting those “my consciousness” fill my entire person and lets it ruins my day. I don’t want to let that happen. That is why, I I think more of what I have to say because that I feel is important.
I relax and breath deeply. Before I had my speech, at the backstage, I breath more deeply from the top of my lungs. As I face the audience, before I utter the first word, I take a deep breath. I then look at them eye to eye. Establishing direct contact to my audience is a strong factor in the purpose of carrying out my speech.

I prepare my speech. I don’t want to be unprepared. Stage fright comes from being unprepared. I am not memorizing my speech because it is just a mere talk. But I do keep in mind the outline so that I will not be confused nor misled of what is the next flow. I am just talking to them like they are my acquaintances. I make my speech friendly and inviting. That is why, I prepared making my speech 2 weeks before the speech proper. I go over my construction and my choice of words. I have laid so much time on my preparation. That is why, I am confident that I did my best.

I move on the stage. It feels great that in speaking, to move relaxes and gives me more ease. Even though my hands and knees are shaking, it will not be obvious when I start to make a walk and hand gestures. I smile at them. I extend gestures that are friendly but not of numerous actions. I just want them that they are at home and I am their mother, merely talking to a child.

As I finished my speech, I paused for seconds to drop down my final words. I turn quietly and walk to my chair. I don’t show any sign of “whispers” to the person next to me for I don’t want to display that I am still shaking or frightened.

After my delivery, I find happiness that I just did what I have expected out form my delivery. It was fun and my boss and my co-workers congratulate me. I am so happy with myself.

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

How to Plan a Trip (Being true and practical)

Believe me, I have been to various places like the Philippines and here in the USA. I have seen the tropical beauty and extraordinary culture of the Filipino people and how they live their lives. I have experienced the serious stare of the windows of the West. The Americans display a life full of abundance and reserved living. But still out from the places I have been, the top that always comes in mind when planning to have a trip is how to wrap them up.

My instinct initiates to go through the details of what is really necessary until I have recapulated information that are vital and needed when planning to have a trip. It always boils down to questioning.

First, where do I like to travel, to have a trip?
The word is “do” and “like”. Whether you are in your neighbor’s backyard, you need to plan your “like” why you want to go to such a place. It is the “want” and the “like” that pursue you to go on a trip or to ignite your plan to travel because it is evidently true that you do like it. Those components (do, like, want) are very important when you travel. You need to listen to your inner conviction and decide on a place that you like to discover. In as much as, it is so awkward to step on a setting which you don’t even plan or feel its aura. Accompanied with that like, do and want is the place. Of course, how can you be able to plan a trip if there is no trip to go? That sounds funny!

Second, how do I go there?
Is going to the chosen place by land, air, or water? Or both or by the three? You need to figure it out. You need to know exactly the right information of the access in going there. Plus, consider the time. How long does it take you to travel? You set time especially when you are flashing like a fly to catch a meeting or so. Thus, if you are the snail type, then you have all your days and nights to waste. Be sure that once you entrust yourself in a vehicle or plane, choose the one that marks quality. It is your life that you are risking here not the other. 

Third, where should I stay?
Hotels, inn, motel, in a tent, home of a friend or relative, it is very essential to book or inform the person or an establishment that you need a space to rest while you plan to be there. It is not a good idea that you will surprise them with “Hi! It’s me…” then you make alibis for them to hurriedly let you in. That sounds ridiculous!

Making early reservation awares the in-charge to prepare and be ready of your attack. You have to be certain and fixed for some accommodations are of no money-back guarantee.

The food, amenities and the room are big consideration. Choose a room that caters to understand the number of your members. Moreover, if you are not in meat, tell the in-charge that they should shun serving meat. Tell them what you like. Moreover, distilled or purified water must you bring. Don’t overexposed yourself feeling you will not get sick if you drink their “fresh running water” dripping through the faucet unless if you bear to take the sufferance of stomach upset. Do not suppress everything. Have all in a safe place, proper and reasonable decision. After all it’s you who are traveling, not them.

All those three aspects of considerations in planning your trip are very essential. Your money explains your budgeting skills. You should have reserved more cash for there are some trips and accommodations that needs to outpour your wealth. There are entrance fees and common’ tick your common sense, tip, tip and more tips. Remember that paired with trip is tip. It is the only way to say “thank you” for a request which actions immediately done (that is, if your baggage are mountainously heavy).

I tell you, when you are in a place for your travel or so, ignite your common sense. Be friendly and nice, but be fair and thankful as well. Be friendly to animals, to nature and to their culture. You might step into the wrong tree if you bring along with you your nowhere to be understood, pride. Don’t be rude. Respect is a must!

Furthermore, you need to be neat. Proper hygiene is also a requirement. Display a modest you, not a you beggar. I mean, wear the proper dress and attire. Remember, if you are that outgoing and practical creature on Earth, drop down your pride. You might not know that you are in the territory of a deeply, over-conservative environment. That is why, respect their culture.

This sounds weird but it is true. When you travel, people think that you are the owner of a bank or you won the lottery. They ask what is due (not overdue to you) but to their services. That is why, if your cash is not that enough, then be certain because it is not a joke to travel. You need to plan and in planning, you need to consider many aspects, money, time and place.

On the other hand, along the way, you will be bombarded with countless surprises and remember, it is so hard to move without extra cash at hand. So shall I say, always be prepared.

Savor every moment to last. Don’t forget to wear your smile and SMILE even more even if your pocket are slowly thinning.

Traveling is not more about thinking how much cash you waste (this instinct will ignite if you are out of money). It is the memory that you will bring for the rest of your life before you die.

Have a HAPPY TRIP! :-)

Internet: Is it hazardous or not?

Using the Internet is like spreading a contagious disease, whether it’s acute or chronic, malignant or not for the use of it extends to all sorts of faces and people are enjoying its existence 24/7.

But for you, is using the Internet hazardous or not? What are its pros and cons?

I admit that I have been addicted of using the Internet because I feel that all the gadgets that I need are in here. For many years, I rely to its availability and services. I enjoy its company and the pleasures it gives from my work and my leisure time.  I possibly have all of them anytime. I just love the Internet like this that I can access my thoughts and transmit it worldwide. That is how I love the Net.

Like most of us do, the Internet is the world for communication. It is the way that messages can be sent worldwide. Messages like text, call or just actions. How can it be possible? Texts are commonly displayed in the Internet. There is what you call as chatrooms where individuals express their messages of love, fun or just about anything. E-mail or commonly known as Electronic Mail, it is the place where people can send short, long written texts or reports to the company, friends, family, etc. The use of voice chat is no t new to Internet users. Interviews, live chat and even “his” and hellos” are vibrantly lead the whole of the voice of people in voice chatting. Telephones and cell phones probably are affected with the power of Internet voice calling. On the other hand, actions revealed through the use of webcam. You can see in real pictures of breaths, smiles and emotions of people who are on the other side of the world chatting with you.  Indeed, the Internet displays lots of services that drive wide audience of its availability.

Not only that, if you want to be updated with the latest in news, sports, celebrities, business or just about anything, the Internet show you the way. You know first before your 200 year-old neighbor updates you. On the other hand, music from your favorite singers then or now are in full capture through videos from the different trending sites. If you want to play and take time to enjoy, then you can work your fingers pressing on those buttons and there you go, you can play your favorite online games unceasingly ‘till dawn on the next day.

It is your electric system that will give up and your electric bill, it is definitely high because of your Internet addiction. But that is what life right now in this generation.

Because of the varied aspects of Internet services, it is the place of more sensuality. Pornography is the number 1 destroyer, the predator to mankind which some young and adults are exposed to, immediately. The exposure of pornographic pictures nor videos should not be exposed to children.  Such immorality, sad to say, rampantly spreading unceasingly.

The culprit, the so-called “virus” that run through the body of computer system ruins many moral activities and havoc destructions to most people. How can one escape from them? I don’t know unless people are that expert programmers, I guess.

On the other hand, Internet makes me lazy. It drives me to say “Just later” do all the chores at home. The addiction is very rapid. It is really like a serious disease that I can’t live without. I just stop when headache burst my brain out from using more.

The use of Internet is unbearable. Its wings widens to all horizons from all races of life. No matter there are pros and cons, there is nothing one can do but to discipline the self. I am on the side of controlling my addiction to set things in its proper destination. But using the Internet is also the option that makes my life easier and thus, I am using it every day.

The role of parents are very essential to their children. They should be aware of what their children surf in the Internet so that they (children) will not be directed into the wrong path of their exposure to the world of its varied access. Thus, they should install protective device(hardware) that their children will not be able to go to wrong Internet places.

Happy 1st Birthday David!

This welcomes the visitors right at the visitor’s dining area as we forward David’s celebration on a Saturday, February 18, 2012. We should have partied on the 15th (the day of David’s birthday) of the said month, but my husband and I are very busy on that day. That is why, we moved it on the same day that we and our visitors are both free, Saturday.

This delicious birthday cake is made up of muffins which are at the bottom of its top layer. It is so delicious. We decided to have the Pooh on its candle because we associated David’s adorable love of Pooh, being the latter as happy and humorous cartoon character and that is how we described our baby David, so happy and smiling all the time.
I am very busy preparing the food and my David, very handsome in his new shirt. He can’t wait to see his friends on his birthday as he can’t wait to blow the candle of his 1st birthday cake. And we sang in jocund, Happy Birthday David! Happy Birthday David! Happy birthday, happy birthday. Happy Birthday David. Then there he goes, David blew his 1st candle.

Birthday party is not possible if there are no foods in the table. The dish that we have prepared is of both Filipino and American tastes. My friends love Filipino dishes while my husband’s friends like to have American dishes on the table. So my husband and I carefully plan what food to serve on the table.

Luckily our friends with their children like the food we serve. They like it so much. And we are happy because we never upset them in coming to David’s 1st birthday party. It’s evidently obvious, right?


Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Jesus Heals Many People – Matthew 15: 29-31 (Reflection)

29 Jesus left there and went along by Lake Galilee. He climbed a hill and sad down. 30 Large crowds came to him, bringing with them the lame, the blind, the crippled, the dumb, and many other sick people, whom they paced at Jesus’ feet; and He healed them. 31 The people were amazed as they saw the dumb speaking, the crippled made whole, the lame walking, and the blind seeing, and they praised the God of Israel. 

It is our family habit to read the Bible every evening before we are going to bed. I chose the reading from Matthew 15: 29-31 – Jesus Heals Many People. I want to have this Bible reading for us because I want to find answers on the repeated search of my hunger mind to uplift myself from the pain in the back that I have felt and from the answers that I have asked from the sickness that my sister feel. 

As I read loudly the Bible passage, I am refreshed of the promise of God that He will never leave everyone who is in deep struggles because of bodily pains or diseases, just like He heals the lame, blind, crippled, the dumb as well as the sick people. These kinds of illnesses and diseases that those people experiencing in the passage seem impossible to solve in the limits of person’s capacity to heal. It can’t be totally healed by mere medicine, nor by any form of artificial healing. But it is the Lord who surely heals all the diseases that we thought it has no possible and sure cures. 

This I find strength in believing and in clinging my trust in Him that He is the sole Person who can heal me more. Medicines are just instruments of God to help alleviate the pain and to prolong the life of the sick. It is also the source of God’s idea that these things (medicines) help cure the sickness and diseases of the people. But we should never forget that paired with the existence of medicine is the trust and faith that we have to reside in God. It is the Lord’s will that all in this Earth will happen. He has a purpose for everything that is coming our way. 

It is so great to feel that God is never leaving us. In spite of how sinful we are, still in times of hard times, He is always there to help us. He never leaves us alone. 

The only armor that we have is PRAYER because prayers are powerful. It is the only way that we can communicate to God. If we openly tell Him how painful we suffer and how our illnesses and diseases ruin our health, He will surely never fail to heal us. It is in us if we let Him in in our lives. God brings miracles and it will happen. It will really happen. 

When we have faith in God, it heals us no matter how deep or how impossible it is to be okay again. God never fails and He will keep His promise if we just believe and have faith in Him. It is through prayers that we can build faith in God. Our sincere prayers lead us to our ultimate cure. 

Oftentimes, people are so preoccupied with material things and situations that can part us in God. But time comes that God will remind us of Him because He loves us and He never wants to depart us in evil ways and swim in its inflictions. Before anything will happen, God will make it sure that He will save us from the evil ways in this earth. 

I am very much happy that I have found the meaning of life in God. I am not like this before because I thought that being busy makes all the sense in life. But there are lacking out from my hectic life. I thought that after all these successes that I have now, I thought that I have it all. But God reminded me of Him always. I am just like those persons who are sick and dying because I was drown in the pain of life, but God never leaves my side. He is calling me always. I am happy to rest my faith in God. It sustains my spirit. It nourishes my soul.

My Father Goes to Court (Humorous Story)

I remember that this story was introduced by our teacher in Reading when I was in Grade 4. Now that I am in my adulthood, I still can remember every detail of this story.

It speaks about the poor man who was accused of stealing the “spirit” of wealth and the smell of the food of a rich family. How the poor man defended his family with the “spirit” of paying them? You will discover that as you read the story.

Authored by Carlos Bulosan, one of the famous story writer in the Philippines, let us find out how the poor man defended himself in court.

My Father Goes to Court
by Carlos Bulosan

When I was four, I lived with my mother and brothers and sisters in a small town on the island of Luzon. Father’s farm had been destroyed in 1918 by one of our sudden Philippines floods, so for several years afterward we all lived in the town, though he preferred living in the country. We had as a next door neighbor a very rich man, whose sons and daughters seldom came out of the house. While we boys and girls played and sang in the sun, his children stayed inside and kept the windows closed. His house was so tall that his children could look in the windows of our house and watch us as we played, or slept, or ate, when there was any food in the house to eat.

Now, this rich man’s servants were always frying and cooking something good, and the aroma of the food was wafted down to us from the windows of the big house. We hung about and took all the wonderful smell of the food into our beings. Sometimes, in the morning, our whole family stood outside the windows of the rich man’s house and listened up the musical sizzling of the thick strips of bacon or ham. I can remember one afternoon when our neighbor’s servants roasted three chickens. The chickens were young and tender and fat that dripped into the burning coals gave off an enchanting odor. We watched the servants turn the beautiful birds and inhaled the heavenly spirit that drifted out to us.

Some days the rich man appeared at a window and glowered down at us. He looked at us one by one, as though he were condemning us. We were all healthy because we went out in the sun every day and nathed in the cool water of the river that flowed from the mountains into the sea. Sometimes we wrestled with one another in the house before we went out to play. We were always in the best of spirits and our laughter was contagious. Other neighbors who passed byour house often stopped in our yard and joined us in laughter.

As time went on, the rich man’s children became thin and anemic, whle we grew even more robust and full of life. Our faces were bright and rosy, but theirs were pale and sad. The rich man started to cough at night; then he coughed day and night. His wife began coughing too. Then the children started coughing sounded like the barking of a herd of seals. We hung outside their windows and listened to them. We wondered what had happened. We knew that they were not sick from lack of nourishing food, because they were still always frying something delicious to eat.

One day, the rich man appeared at a window and stood there a long time. He looked at my sisters, who had a grown fat with laughing, then at my brothers, whose arms and legs were like the molave, which is the sturdiest tree in the Philippines. He banged down the window and ran through his house, shutting all the windows.

From that day on, the windows of our neighbor’s house were always closed. The children did not come outdoors any more. We could still hear the servants cooking in the kitchen, and no matter how tight the windows were shut, the aroma of the food came to us in the wind and drifted gratuitously into our house.

One morning, a policeman from presidencia came to our house with a sealed paper. The rich man had filed a complaint against us. Father took me with him when he went to the town clerk and asked him what it was about. He told Father the man claimed that for years we had been stealing the spirit of wealth and food.

When the day came for us to appear in court, Father brushed his old Army uniform and borrowed a pair of shoes from one of my brothers. We were the first to arrive. Father sat on a chair in the center of the courtroom. Mother occupied a chair by the door. We children sat on a long beach by the wall. Father kept jumping up from his chair and stabling the air with his arms, as though he were defending himself before an imaginary jury.

The rich man arrived. He had grown old and feeble; his face was scarred with deep lines. With him was his young lawyer. Spectators came in and almost filled the chairs. The judge entered the room and sat on a high chair. We stood up in a hurry and then sat down again.

After the courtroom preliminaries, the judge looked at Father. “Do you have a lawyer?” he asked. “I don’t need any lawyer, Judge,” he said.

“Proceed,” said the Judge.
The rich man’s lawyer jumped up and pointed his finger at Father.
“Do you or do you not agree that you have been stealing the spirit of the complainant’s wealth and food?”
“I do not,” Father said.

“Do you or do you not agree that while the complainant’s servants cooled and fried fat legs of lamb or young chicken breasts you and your family hung outside his window and inhaled the heavenly spirit of the food?”

“I agree”, Father said.

“Do you or do you not agree that while the complainant’ and his children grew sickly and tubercular you and your family became strong of limb and fair of complexion?”
“I agree,” Father said.
“How do you account for that?”

Father got up and paced around, scratching his head thoughfully. Then he said, “I would like to see the children of the complainant, Judge.”

“Bring in the children of the complainant.”

They came in shyly. The spectators covered their mouths with their hands, they were so amazed to see the children are so thin and pale. The children walked silently to a bench and sat down without looking up. They stared at the floor and moved their hands uneasily.

Father could not say anything at first. He just stood by his chair and looked at them. Finally he said, “I should like to cross-examine the complainant.”
“Proceed.”
“Do you claim that we stole the spirit of your wealth and became a laughing family while yours become a morose and sad? Father asked.

“Yes.”
“Then we are going to pay you right now,” Father said. He walked over to where the children were sitting on the bench and took the straw hat off my lap and began filling it up with centavo pieces that he took out of his pockets. He went to Mother, who added a fistful of silver coins. My brothers threw in their small change.

“May I walk to the room across the hall and stay there for a few minutes, Judge?” Father asked.

“As you wish.”
“Thank you, “Father said. He strode into the other room with the hat in his hands. It was almost full of coins. The doors of both rooms were wide open.
“Are you ready?” Father called.
“Proceed,” the judge said.

The sweet tinkle of the coins carried beautifully into the courtroom. The spectators turned their faces toward the sound with wonder. Father came back and stood before the complainant.

“Did you hear it?” he asked.
“Hear what?” the man asked.
“The spirit of the money when I shook this hat?” he asked.
“Yes.”
“Then we are paid,” Father said.

The rich man opened his mouth to speak and fell to the floor without sound. The lawyer rushed to aid. The judge pounded his gavel.
“Case dismissed”, he said.

Father strutted around the courtroom. The judge even came down from his high chair to shake hands with him. “By the way,” he whispered, “I had an uncle who died laughing.”
“You like to hear my family laugh, Judge?” Father asked.
“Why not?”
“Did you hear that, children?” Father said.

My sisters started it. The rest of us followed them and soon the spectators were laughing with us, holding their beliefs and bending over the chairs. And the laughter of the judge was the loudest of all.

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